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Editor’s note: This is part one of a two-part series that looks at the best ways to ensure an inheritance creates financial freedom, not a financial burden.
Farm life is hard. When my clients, a farm family, began their estate planning, they faced a dilemma many such families experience: How to preserve their legacy without forcing an unwanted burden on their children.
Their concerns were well-founded. They’d watched neighboring farms disappear, sold off to developers piece by piece or absorbed by corporate agriculture. The thought of their hundreds of acres of prime farmland meeting the same fate kept them up at night.
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But asking one of their four children to take over — all of whom had scattered across the country, building careers and lives far from the fields that had sustained their family for generations — felt like a burden they didn’t want to impose.
However, to their delight, their daughter, the youngest of the four, wanted to give farming a go. Not only was this an opportunity to keep the farm in the family, but more importantly, it was a chance to secure financial freedom for all four of their children.
Though not everyone will own a farm, the essence of their situation isn’t unique. Across America, families are grappling with similar decisions regarding inheritance as we witness the largest wealth transfer in history.
When executed well, an inheritance can help the next generation gain financial freedom. When executed poorly, you may cause more harm than good, working directly against your positive intentions.
The Great Wealth Transfer is underway
We’re in the midst of the largest wealth transfer in American history. An estimated $124 trillion will change hands by 2048 as Baby Boomers pass their assets to their Gen X and Millennial children.
Don’t think this applies only to the ultra-wealthy. The Great Wealth Transfer is affecting families across all income levels, from modest inheritances to sizable estates that include family businesses, farmland, real estate holdings and investment portfolios.
Inheritance is an opportunity to help the next generation create financial freedom for themselves.
But all too often, it isn’t given the attention it deserves. Many parents fail to see it as an opportunity to create lasting financial security for the next generation, setting the stage long-term to help them realize their own dreams.
Success lies in proper planning and communication. Without those, even well-intentioned inheritances can become financial and emotional burdens.
Inheritance done right
My farm-family clients understood this instinctively. They knew that an inheritance must be structured correctly for it to truly become a source of financial freedom for future generations.
Over the years, the couple had detailed conversations with all four children about their estate plan. They established clear parameters: Whoever wanted to continue farming would need to live on the property and maintain a minimum amount of acreage so the integrity of the farm would be maintained.
To ensure that the non-farming siblings weren’t sidelined, the parents’ estate plan spelled out that the heir to the farm would purchase the land from the other siblings at a discount. Those terms were laid out in advance and agreed to. This is inheritance planning done well.
Another family I worked with faced a similar challenge with their family business. Two of their children were active in the company, and the third chose her own career path.
Rather than force a strained buyout after their deaths, the parents bought life insurance to guarantee that all the siblings received the same amount.
What set these two families apart from others attempting wealth transfer is how clear-eyed they were. They set their intentions openly, sought their children’s input to understand whether it was an arrangement that worked for them and structured the inheritance in a way that didn’t leave anyone out.
When inheritance becomes a burden
Sadly, it doesn’t always go this way. Often, an inheritance can leave the next generation feeling unprepared or even burdened.
For starters, some heirs carry a psychological weight. They may feel like an inheritance is somebody else’s money, and they’re reluctant to spend it. Others might feel like they’re not up to the task of being stewards of someone else’s hard work.
There’s also family discord that can erupt when siblings have different ideas about what to do with their inherited assets. Or they might experience paralysis when they receive a substantial sum without proper preparation or guidance.
None of these are ideal scenarios when you’re also dealing with the loss of a loved one.
One couple I worked with was swimming in debt. They spent wildly because they anticipated an inheritance coming their way at some point.
Unfortunately, when they did inherit, nearly half went toward paying off debt, and the other half went toward supporting a spending habit. The inheritance didn’t last them long.
When done well, an inheritance becomes a bridge to genuine financial freedom for the next generation. But this doesn’t happen automatically. Your heirs need your guidance to help them turn money into lasting financial security, so it doesn’t become a temporary windfall that quickly disappears.
Starting the conversation
The key to transforming inheritances is communication. However, that can be difficult, especially if it stirs up old family dynamics and resentments. My advice is always to forge ahead well in advance, decades before any documents are signed.
The worst thing you can do is keep your family in the dark about your intentions. By leaving these conversations to the end — or worse, only after your death — you also lose the opportunity to help your heirs shape how their wealth will be used.
That’s not to say that you need to disclose everything, especially if your children aren’t yet financially responsible. It can be counterproductive to tell children in their 20s that they stand to inherit. But cluing them into your wishes can be an important family conversation.
Here’s how to go about setting your heirs up for long-term financial security:
Understand your own intentions
Start by getting clear on what you hope your inheritance will allow. Do you want to provide basic financial security? Enable your children to take risks they couldn’t otherwise afford? Preserve a family legacy?
However, be prepared to adjust your plans if your intentions don’t line up with your children’s goals and capabilities.
Work to align expectations
The most successful inheritances happen when parents and children work together to decide how an inheritance will be used.
One of my clients was a young woman who used the substantial inheritance from her grandparents to quit her corporate job and launch the interior design business she’d always dreamed of.
Because her grandparents had communicated their desire for her to pursue her dreams, she felt empowered to take a meaningful risk.
Address psychological barriers
Many heirs struggle with what I call “ghost money syndrome” — the feeling that inherited wealth belongs to the deceased, not to them. These psychological barriers are real.
Help your children avoid emotional paralysis by explicitly granting them permission to pursue their own dreams and goals with their inheritance.
Be specific about logistics
In complex situations like family business or farms, spell out the mechanics of an inheritance clearly.
Vague intentions lead to family disputes, but specific terms create clarity that allows all heirs to move toward their own version of financial freedom.
The gift that keeps on giving
The Great Wealth Transfer is more than money changing hands. It’s an opportunity to extend your values and influence beyond your lifetime. When handled thoughtfully, an inheritance becomes a launching pad for the next generation’s dreams rather than a burden they must bear.
The families who get this right share a few similarities. They start the conversation early, communicate their intentions clearly, and work collaboratively with their heirs to ensure that everyone’s needs are met.
They understand that the best gift they can give is one of family harmony and the freedom to allow each generation to build their own version of success.
