Hey baby boomers, your kids are doing a good job saving for their own retirements and amassing their own wealth. Which may have you thinking: do they even need an inheritance?
Sure, they aren’t going to turn it down, but you may be wondering whether it’s worthwhile to spread that wealth a little differently — maybe even back to yourself.
But should you? Here’s how to know, and what you can do with it instead.
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Four questions to ask before scaling back
How much? About $53 trillion is expected to transfer from boomers to their heirs through 2045.
At the same time, millennials and Generation Xers overall are doing a good job of building their own wealth and securing their own retirements.
But even though the kids are doing fine, inheritance plans rarely change. The money they stand to inherit stays the same (or increases depending on where it’s housed) — even if they’ve already reached a point where they need it less.
If that sounds familiar and you are on the fence about scaling back an inheritance, ask yourself these four questions:
1. Do your adult children actually need your help now, or are they truly relying on a future windfall to meet their goals?
Why this matters: If your kids are already self-sufficient, they’re going to be just fine without a massive inheritance later.
2. If you gave them a portion of their inheritance today, would it make a real difference, or would it just sit in an account earning interest?
Why this matters: If a windfall wouldn’t change their lives right now, it certainly won’t be a game-changer when they are sixty.
3. Are you sacrificing your own retirement experience just to ensure they have a huge payout?
Why this matters: It’s natural to want to leave a legacy, but you have to live, too. You worked hard for the right to spend time and money on your loved ones—and that’s often more important than the number you leave behind.
4. Would you and your family get more joy out of putting that money to use while you’re still around to see it?
Why this matters: Life is about the memories you make. Whether it’s helping a grandchild with tuition, funding a new business or taking that big multi-generational trip, it’s usually better to spend the money while you’re alive to enjoy the impact.
What you can do with the money instead
You’ve decided you can keep some of the inheritance and now you’re wondering what you can do instead. That’s where the fun comes in, says Cassandra Rupp, a senior wealth advisor at Vanguard.
But first, retirees have to get comfortable with spending more in retirement, something that is notoriously hard to do with the fear of outliving their money looming over their heads.
Once they are ok with that, Rupp says boomers can redirect those resources toward enhancing their own lives. That may mean boosting day-to-day spending, upgrading your travel experiences, investing in home improvements or prioritizing wellness.
If you are more charitably inclined, you can increase your giving or the financial support you provide to friends and family through vehicles like 529 plans.
“I’m seeing more people shift toward lifetime gifting rather than relying on traditional inheritances, allowing them to make a meaningful impact now while enjoying the lifestyle they’ve earned,” she said.
By shifting to a “giving while you’re living” mindset, you get to see the business they start, the home they buy or the education you funded, all the while enjoying the retirement you worked for. Giving in this way turns your legacy into a living story that you actually get to take part in.
Making it work for you
Ultimately, whether you pass down every cent or decide to scale back the inheritance for your successful kids comes down to the legacy you want to leave and the life you want to live right now.
Everyone’s approach is different, but it all boils down to your view of wealth: do you want it to be a static number in a will, or a living story that you get to take part in while you’re still here?
