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Caring for both your aging parents and young children is tough.
It can be an overwhelming drain on your time and your finances, and attending to their needs often means putting yourself last.
One in four Americans (25%) are part of the sandwich generation with a child under 18 and a living parent, according to the 2025 Annual Retirement Study from the Allianz Center for the Future of Retirement*, part of Allianz Life Insurance Company of North America.
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Nearly half of Millennials (46%) and 18% of Gen Xers have dual responsibility for kids and parents.
While it’s good to care for loved ones, it’s important to not let their needs come at the expense of taking care of yourself. When it comes to your long-term finances, putting yourself last can have a costly effect down the road.
Costly effect of dual caregiving
While it might feel as if it’s your responsibility to care for everyone, it’s important to keep your best interests in mind for your long-term security.
What’s worrisome is that the majority of Americans in the sandwich generation said it is affecting their finances. Three in four of them (75%) said it’s hard to juggle their financial needs and goals because they’re caring for children and parents.
In addition, 70% of Americans in the sandwich generation said taking care of their child(ren) and parent(s) simultaneously has had a significant impact on their retirement plans.
What’s more, 59% said they’ve reduced or stopped contributing to retirement savings accounts due to having to financially support both their children and parents.
This is one of those airplane mask situations — secure your own oxygen mask before assisting others. You need to prioritize yourself to support anyone else. In particular, forgoing saving for retirement now can have costly consequences later.
The risk of neglecting retirement savings
Millennials and Gen Xers who are part of the sandwich generation might feel as if they have plenty of time to financially prepare for retirement. But waiting to put money aside for retirement comes at a great cost.
For example, consider the cost of lost compounding. Time is one of the most powerful tools for amassing retirement funds because of compounding. Delaying savings means giving up years of this exponential growth.
There are other benefits that can add up over time. You might lose out on the tax benefits of growing funds in tax-deferred accounts, such as a traditional 401(k), or tax-free accounts, such as a Roth IRA, or miss out on matching retirement funds from your employer.
Reducing or stopping retirement savings could compound the lost opportunity for growth if your employer matches contributions to a retirement savings account.
Maintaining retirement contribution levels to always receive the full employer match is a smart way to make all the money you’re setting aside for retirement work harder for you.
Neglecting retirement savings poses a risk to your future lifestyle. Less money set aside for retirement could lead to a lower standard of living in retirement, working longer to make up for savings or more aggressive savings to catch up and stay on your desired retirement timeline.
You could also become a burden to your children — possibly creating another sandwich generation.
Make a plan now
If dual caregiving is part of your reality now, creating a financial strategy that accounts for that responsibility while maintaining your financial priorities is key.
When feeling squeezed financially, the first step is always to assess current spending to see if there are expenses to cut. Budgeting and reducing spending can help, but it often won’t be sustainable for long-term needs.
You may also want to look into how your parents could use their existing assets. Your parents may have a life insurance or annuity policy that offers, potentially at an additional cost, long-term care benefits or other ways to potentially draw money from the policy to help them through financial stress.
A financial professional can help you design a strategy that balances your competing priorities to care for your kids and parents now without neglecting your financial future.
Balancing the demands of dual caregiving on your finances requires thoughtful planning because caring for both your kids and aging parents doesn’t have to derail your long-term financial goals.
Prioritizing your own financial security will allow you to support your loved ones. The key is to develop a financial strategy that can ensure that you can care for your loved ones today and care for yourself tomorrow.
* Allianz Center for the Future of Retirement conducted an online survey, the 2025 Annual Retirement Study in January/February 2025 with a nationally representative sample of 1,000 Respondents age 25+ in the contiguous U.S. with an annual household income of $50k+ (single) / $75k+ (married/partnered) OR investable assets of $150k+.
